What are you DONE tolerating?

written by Erica Quam

Chances are, there's something that you're doing that's holding you back from reaching your full potential. We all have things that we tolerate - either consciously or subconsciously. There things that we carry with us - old stories we tell ourselves or beliefs that limit us. Why do we continue to hold onto these things?

Today, it's all about being driven as coaches - doing more, having more, or being more. That is what many people think is going to make you a great coach. In reality, the things that hold us back have little to do with drive.  It's much more about mindset and much less about strategy, resources, or the X's and O's.

Here are a few examples:

Having to be perfect

We're not perfect. We screw up and fall short. At times we say the wrong things and even make the wrong decisions. 

What would it feel like to let go of perfection and be more real and transparent? How powerful would it be to model this imperfection to your athletes? How would things change if you were more honest with them when things didn't go the way you expected and allow them to watch you let that go? Being vulnerable establishes trust and builds connection. Who couldn't use a little more of that on their team?

Living up to other people's expectations

A lot of times coaches feel like they have to live up to other people's expectations of them. Instead of being authentic, real, or true they feel pressured to show up as someone else. Instead of doing things their way, they do things like other coaches have done...because "that's just what you do."

What would it be like to use your knowledge, experience, and intuition to make decisions based solely off what you believe and let go of the expectations from other people? How could we change our culture by doing things differently?

Letting other people's opinions define you

Who do you think you are to do, say, or think...x, y, or z?

As a coach, you are going to get lots of opinions from other people. The more successful you get, the more opinions you are going to get from an even greater number people. Take time to ask yourself, who am I and what am I doing here? 

What would it be like if you were more clear on who you are, the values you believe, and the expectations you have. Take time to gain clarity around those 3 things and stay connected them - no matter what people say - and you will find a way to stand in your power.

What are you tolerating that you need to let go? One of the three things I listed above or something totally different? Share one comment below.