What To Do When You Feel Burned Out And Want To Quit

It was spring - during my 5th year as an assistant collegiate swim coach. I was at one of the top programs in the country and yet, I was done. I had already made a new plan. I was moving to Alaska. 

I would work at Starbucks or REI. I wanted to do something easy. Maybe I would pick up some substitute teaching hours along the way.

My friend had offered me a place to live for free while she traveled out of the country for the next six months.

All I wanted to do was sleep...and be by myself. What I realized later was that I was experiencing all the classic signs and symptoms of burnout. 

Have you ever experienced any symptoms of burnout?

  • Physical and emotional fatigue or exhaustion

  • Disconnect between job and responsibilities

  • Cynicism, isolation, or detachment

  • Feeling unimportant or ineffective

  • Lack of passion 

[Click here for a self test on burnout.]

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What to do when you feel burned out...and want to quit

It was spring - during my 5th year as an assistant collegiate swim coach. I was done. I had already made a new plan. I was moving to Alaska. 

I would work at Starbucks or REI. I wanted to do something easy. Maybe I would pick up some substitute teaching hours along the way.

My friend had offered me a place to live for free while she traveled out of the country for the next six months.

All I wanted to do was sleep...and be by myself. What I realized later was that I was experiencing all the classic signs and symptoms of burnout. 

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How female coaches become isolated

I was on a coaching call recently with a head coach who was in her third season at a new school. Things were "going well" for her and her team.

"I'm starting to hit my stride," she said proudly. She seemed to have buy in, athletes were working hard, the team was performing, captains didn't report any complaints, and things were rolling along. 

Her biggest challenge at the moment was feeling disconnected from coaches within her athletic department...and especially isolated from other female coaches. Honestly, she was hurt by this. She had made a few attempts...and been shut down. She didn't know what else to try.

She was single, they had kids. She was new, they had all been there "forever". When she went by their offices to initiate some small talk...they were either too busy or made up excuses to go do something else.

Can you relate?

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Featured Coach of the Month: Sara Doell

The featured coach of the month is a new segment to the Who Coaches You? blog. The purpose is to bring more visibility to women who coach by sharing their stories. My intention is that other women who coach will read, learn, and be inspired by other women who coach. Hopefully, you'll resonate with these women in some way and perhaps identify yourself in some of the common threads that connect all of us in this incredible profession.

WHAT'S YOUR NAME? WHERE DID YOU GROW UP?

I'm Sara Doell and I grew up in Rochester, NY

WHAT SPORT DO YOU COACH?

Women's Golf, Seton Hall University

WHAT'S ONE THING PEOPLE MAY NOT REALIZE ABOUT GOLF?

Golf is one of the hardest sports you can play- you play with the smallest ball, you use the tool that has the smallest sweet spot, you play on the largest field while hitting at the smallest target. It is an interesting way to look at the game!

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9 actions to take to support women who coach

On the eve of what may be one of the largest gatherings of women ever marching in Washington DC, in more than 300 cities across the US, and over 30 countries - I find it only fitting to get really intentional on what actions can be taken after the march to help more women step up as leaders.

Sometimes it can be hard to know what you specifically can do - within your own sphere of influence - to make a difference in this crazy world of ours. I can tell you one thing for sure...if you're a coach...you can make a huge difference everyday. 

No matter what your race, religion, or politics are...women who coach are facing a paradox in the world of athletics today: The number of girls playing sports is at an all-time high. Yet the number of women who coach collegiately has declined from over 90% in 1974 down to 40% today. Here's the link to the research to prove it done by the Tucker Center for Research on Girls and Women in Sport in collaboration with the Alliance of Women Coaches.

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The Huddle: My Top Five Takeaways

This month, I had the opportunity to attend an event called, The Huddle, in Kansas City, Missouri. This was the fourth national annual conference for The Alliance of Women Coaches. The conference featured an amazing lineup of speakers - all of whom provided relevant information to an eager-to-soak-it-all-up crowd of women coaches. The conference is open to all women coaches of all sports and all levels. Executive Director of the Alliance - Marlene Bjornsrud - and her incredible staff executed a highly successful event.

Here are my top 5 takeaways:

1. Remember the coaches & people who have influenced you as a coach

Renee Brown - Chief of Basketball Operations & Player Relations of the WNBA- shared her “coaching family tree”.  She had us take the time to do the same. Take time to acknowledge the people in your life who planted the seed for you and encouraged you to get into the coaching profession. Reflect on what about that person contributes to your current success as a coach. This was a powerful exercise and a reminder that none of us got to where we are today by ourselves. 

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