Your REAL Value As A Coach (HINT: It's Not What the Scoreboard Says)

I caught up with a coach the other day who was really bummed out.

She had just finished her season.

Her team had competed well, yet she was frustrated.

Her competitors also had strong performances.

Last year her team would have been four places higher in the overall team standings...with the same results. She told her team what she thought they were capable of achieving...they did it...and yet those results weren't reflected on the scoreboard.

She had originally planned to take some much needed downtime after the season.

Now, she was questioning her time off..."What would my boss say if I take time off...when what I really need is to sign another recruit to help our team next season? I don't feel we did well enough for me to deserve any kind of a break."

I'm wondering if you can relate? Have you ever felt like this? 

POST SEASON DIP

There can be a normal let down at the end of the season - no matter how well your team performed. 

Many coaches - if they're being honest - either feel flawed in some way OR feel the need to constantly prove themselves. 

Unless you've just won the national championship, there's always room to improve.

Even then, if you've talked to any national championship coach after they've won...the pressure and expectations simply go up instead of down.

It's so easy to let the results on the scoreboard define you.

It's also easy to let the outside world dictate how you FEEL about yourself.

It's easy...and it's not helpful! 

This kind of thinking makes you shrink and contract.  This kind of thinking does not move you forward. 

These kinds of thoughts don't help you grow and expand. 

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Four Questions To Answer To Understand Your Value As A Coach (HINT: it's not what the scoreboard says)

I caught up with a coach the other day who was really bummed out.

Her team had competed well, yet she was frustrated. The competition also had strong performances. Last year her team would have been four places higher in the overall team standings...with the same results. She told her team what she thought they were capable of achieving...they did it...and yet those results weren't reflected on the scoreboard.

She had originally planned to take some much needed downtime after the season. Now, she was questioning her time off..."What would my boss say if I take time off...when what I really need is to sign another recruit to help our team next season? I don't feel we did well enough for me to deserve a vacation."

I'm wondering if you can relate. Have you ever felt like this? 

There can be a normal let down at the end of the season - no matter how well you're team has performed.  Many coaches - if they're being honest - either feel flawed in some way OR feel the need to constantly prove themselves.  Unless you've just won the national championship, there's always room to improve. (Even then, if you've talked to any national championship coach after they've won...the pressure and expectations simply go up instead of down.)

It's so easy to let the results on the scoreboard define you. It's easy to let the outside world dictate how you FEEL about yourself. It's easy...and it's not helpful!  This kind of thinking makes you shrink and contract.  This kind of thinking does not move you forward.  These thoughts don't help you grow and expand. 

That's why I teach coaches how to identify and focus more on their true value. 

I'm not talking about value as in a higher salary.  (Although recognizing your value can help you be more confident when you do go in to ask for a raise.)

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Do you believe you deserve a vacation?

The culture of college athletics is challenging. It definitely was challenging for me!

BELIEF #1

There’s a belief - with some coaches - that the time and effort you put in directly correlates to how successful you are. 

A 9 to 5 job? How about 6 to 9?…plus weekends and holidays! That’s the schedule a dedicated coach keeps! That’s just what you have to do to be the best! Right!?

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3 things to do when you get triggered

I love teaching yoga to give people tools to find more freedom in their bodies and more quietness in their minds. And I'll be the first to admit that I struggle with some of the same challenges that come up for my students when it comes to quieting the mind!

No matter how much yoga or meditation you do, life still happens. 

We all have situations that come up and people who trigger us - mentally and emotionally. It can't be avoided! However, when you become aware of the what (or the who) then you can actually do something productive to change the outcome - instead of reacting in a way that you may regret later on.

Think of it as staying vertical instead of going horizontal. 

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What do you need to do what you want?

Believe it or not, you are in charge of your feelings and emotions. These emotions move you closer to or further away from the outcomes you want and the goals you set in life. 

There are two sides to each emotion. Think of it like a coin - for example, on one side there is joy and appreciation and on the other side boredom.

List A moves you further away from what you want. List B list takes you closer to what you want. What do you need to spend more time in the second list?

Take ownership of your emotions:

  • He just makes me feel worthless.
  • She makes me so angry!
  • That coach always makes me feel discouraged!

No one makes you feel anything. You just feel. You experience your own emotions.

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Don't have enough time?

Time is a valuable resource. Somehow we end up wasting it. Time can be scarce. It sometimes seems that we never have enough time. Yet, we always have the same amount of time each and every day. We always have 24 hours, 1440 minutes, or 86,400 seconds - in each day.

What matters is how you spend your time each day. Do you get as much done as you want and end the day feeling complete and fulfilled or do you end each day wishing you had gotten more done or had gotten to do different things?

Part of the answer to this question has to do with mindset. You can have the mindset of scarcity - where you never have enough time, you never get everything done, and you never feel fulfilled or satisfied. OR you can have a mindset of abundance - where you make the most of your time, and you end the day feeling grateful at the things you have accomplished and completed.

The energy you experience is completely different depending on which mindset you choose.

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