I work with plenty of coaches who - if they're being completely honest - struggle with feeling overwhelmed...especially at the beginning of the season.
No matter how well you've planned (or if you haven't planned at all)...and no matter how rested you feel (or if you don't feel rested at all)...the strong feelings of overwhelm can hold you back, keep you stuck, and impact the longevity of your coaching career.
Let's face it...the number of unexpected things you never imagined you'd have to deal with are there all of a sudden staring you square in the face. Then, you're expected to handle these situations having had no prior experience. Ready? Set? Go! Read More
The feeling - and sometimes the brevity - is truly something you can't explain to the people in your life who aren't coaches. Your athletes certainly don't get the breadth of what you do.
The thing that can hold coaches back the most are the judgements that accompany the feelings. And the feelings of loneliness and isolation that stem from the added pressure you put on yourself...to have it all done and done perfectly.
Can you relate?
There were several activities that took me out of my comfort zone in my role as a head coach: networking, recruiting, and speaking. You may find it hard to believe that a head coach of a Pac-12 program could be such an introvert. The two don't seem to fit together. Yet...there I was.
To say I had a bad-attitude at times was an understatement.
I made up stories about what people thought of me. I would compare myself to other coaches. I had a stream of negative thoughts swirling around in my head. Read More
I had a coaching call last week with a new head coach. She had just taken over program, had a long list of to-do’s, and was feeling really inadequate.
“Uggghhh…I don’t have enough time to fit everything in!”
I asked her about her priorities and she said, “What do you mean priorities? Everything is a priority right now. I’ve got so many things that have to get done. Everything’s important! Maybe people were right. Maybe I’m NOT ready to be a head coach yet.”
Most coaches get really down on themselves when they have a lot on their plate and are spinning their wheels. Self judgement makes things harder.
If you’ve ever felt this way, it’s not that you’re not good at what you do, ready to be a head coach, or a responsible assistant coach…. Read More
At the end of the season, you’re going to get feedback from your athletes, staff, and administration.
A lot of coaches - consciously or unconsciously - have a lot of stress during this time.
Couple that with the fact you’ve had a long season…and probably not much of a break.
How do you respond to criticism - from your athletes, parents, administrators, or other coaches?
Sorry to be the downer...and I'm letting you know there will always be people who judge and criticize you for actions you take and decisions you make.
You can't escape cricitism!
It doesn't matter how hard you work, how perfect you are, or what level of success you reach...there will always be someone there to judge you.
How do you respond? Read More
This week I’m working with group of coaches at a Women's Coaching Summit in Bellingham.
Part of what’s so great about the summit is taking the opportunity to celebrate all of the many accomplishments, insights, and ah-ha’s these coaches have had over the past year.
When coaches sit down to write these things down, their list may not look like what you'd expect.
That's because it takes some work to recognize the value in your work as a coach.
Coaches are hard on their athletes...and even harder on themselves!
It takes a little more digging and a deeper level of awareness to see all the ways you're actually learning, growing, and expanding.
The things that matter the most aren't necessarily the typical things that you might expect people to high-five or fist-pump about.
Things that make your list of accomplishments may be things you'd hardly ever think to celebrate at all.
That's why this kind of work is so important!!! Read More
Have you ever thought to yourself how amazing the coaching profession would be…if you didn’t have any difficult athletes, staff, or administrators to deal with?
Coaching is 90% how you relate to people and how they relate to you.
To be able to be relatable you have to understand yourself first.
Plenty of coaches “hide” behind the X’s and the O’s. They think that tactics and fundamentals are the most important things and they really don’t want to even deal with other “stuff”.
I believe it's the other “stuff” that makes a coach great! Read More