What to try this season when you run outta willpower

You're in the middle of your season. You've been on the road and when you've been home you've spent your weekends hosting recruits and their parents.

You're quite proud of yourself this season...at least so far. You've been doing well with your personal goals of working out 3-4 times a week, eating (relatively) healthy, and shutting down your laptop before 11pm. 

Yet, you still feel 'edgy'. Like you're on the brink of exploding - either on your assistant (if they ask you the same damn question, one more time) or one of your athletes (who knows what buttons to push and when to push them to put you right over your edge).

You're holding it together...and yet..there's this undercurrent of frustration simmering right under the surface that could show it's ugly face any moment.

Do you ever wonder why that is? 

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Reflect, Reset, & Realign for the year ahead

This is the time of the year when days are darker and shorter. The holidays can ramp up a whole new level of stress in our lives. Give yourself the the gift of taking some time and space to reflect, reset, and realign for the year ahead. If you are working with your team right now, it can be great to give them this time and space as well.

REFLECTION

Before you think back on your year, give yourself some time to get grounded and centered. You may even find it helpful to light a simple candle - something to signify this intention of allowing yourself time to reflect. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Feel your feet on the ground. Be in your body. Notice the rhythm of your breath, the beating of your heart, and any sensations you are feeling inside. 

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Create a better plan for your own self care

Coaches have a tendency to put others first: and take care of everyone else's needs before their own. Coaches often tell the story that doing things for themselves is selfish or weak: like taking the day off, making time for quiet reflection, prioritizing a family event over work, etc. 

Self indulgence vs. Self care

For example: Eating dessert AFTER dinner vs. eating dessert FOR dinner. The child in all of us knows the fun choice. It may make us feel "good" in the moment - in a rebellious and defiant sort of way. We intuitively know the better choice. Self indulgence is a misguided attempt to make ourselves feel better. It's a temporary solution that quickly wears off. Self care fosters physical, psychological, & emotional health and improves our overall well-being.

Fast forward

Imagine yourself at the end of the season...overwhelmed, worn out, and just plain tired. This is often the tipping point: the smallest challenge seems huge and can bring coaches to the brink of burnout. It becomes more and more difficult for you to tap into your strengths, your wisdom, & your intuition. You are less effective, less connected, and less engaged

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