4 Strategies For A Quiet Leader

One of the questions I often get at my coaching summits is, "Can I be a successful coach and still be an introvert?"

My answer? Absolutely. 

I really believe the more authentic you are the less energy it takes.

Being a coach is a big job already! Trying to be someone you're not will leave you overwhelmed and exhausted. 

Now, there are times when all coaches have to step out of their comfort zone and adapt their behavior - to be effective.

However, if you're always striving to please your athletes, be someone you're not, or simply trying to fit a mold of who you think you should be...you're gonna burn out.

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Up Your Game This Season: 7 Leadership Skills To Master As A Coach [Part 3 - Communication]

You may think you know everything you need to know about communication. 

Most people do. 

Especially coaches.

Communication is a leadership skill.

Everyone has room to improve as a communicator because it's not a 'one size fits all' skill.  You've got to adapt.

Once you have one person figured out, along comes someone else. 

Each person has a unique code to crack.

I believe people come into your life - specifically - so you can learn how to continually learn and grow as a communicator. 

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4 Strategies For A Quiet Leader

One of the questions I often get at my coaching summits is, "Can I be a successful coach and still be an introvert?"

My answer? Absolutely. 

I really believe the more authentic you are the less energy it takes. Being a coach is a big job already! Trying to be someone you're not will leave you overwhelmed and exhausted. 

Now, there are times when all coaches have to step out of their comfort zone and adapt their behavior - to be effective. However, if you're always striving to please your athletes, be someone you're not, or simply trying to fit a mold of who you think you should be...you're gonna burn out.

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How female coaches become isolated

I was on a coaching call recently with a head coach who was in her third season at a new school. Things were "going well" for her and her team.

"I'm starting to hit my stride," she said proudly. She seemed to have buy in, athletes were working hard, the team was performing, captains didn't report any complaints, and things were rolling along. 

Her biggest challenge at the moment was feeling disconnected from coaches within her athletic department...and especially isolated from other female coaches. Honestly, she was hurt by this. She had made a few attempts...and been shut down. She didn't know what else to try.

She was single, they had kids. She was new, they had all been there "forever". When she went by their offices to initiate some small talk...they were either too busy or made up excuses to go do something else.

Can you relate?

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How to weather conflict with your team

Kristin's team was a few weeks into the season. Things were going well so far and yet she sensed an undercurrent of tension after morning practice. She hadn't 'heard' anything negative...she just had a 'sense'.

Then she got a text from her team captain to confirm something was definitely up...thank GOD!

At least she had her guard up before Nell (one of her freshmen) walked into her office and promptly burst into tears.

All teams (and any group) cycle through the stages of group development:

  1. Forming
  2. Storming
  3. Norming
  4. Performing

During the forming stage, your athletes are looking for ways to belong and connect. As a coach, this is when you’ll want to build trust and set boundaries - so people feel safe.

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