3 Things You're Avoiding...and How It Drains Your Energy

I've noticed a pattern that's come up with a few coaches I've talked to recently.

I'm curious if you can relate?

Read through these examples and choose the letter that best describes what you tend to do.

Note: Don't think too long. There are no right or wrong answers. Which one best describes your 'go-to' mode. (And...be honest.)

1. You see someone you’re having a hard time with…and you really don't want to talk to them. What do you do?

Do you a) avert your eyes, find something interesting on the floor, pick up the pace and walk briskly walk by...like you're in a hurry b) duck into the closest restroom...and hope they don't come in c) pull your phone out and pretend to answer an important call d) suck it up and begin the conversation...awkwardly or e) none of the above? 

2. There's a big decision you need to make by tomorrow. What do you do? 

Do you a) go workout, turn up the music and try not to think about it b) go home, tune into a new Netflix series and numb out with three more episodes c) stay at the office late, like you're "really busy"...frantically checking emails, facebook, instagram...or working on something that's not due until next spring d) lie down in bed and stay wide awake stressing out about it all night or e) none of the above?

3. There's a conversation you know you need to have to clear up some major tension. What do you do?

Do you a) vent about it with someone you can count on to agree with you to collude with b) rehearse lines in your head over and over again until you think it's perfect c) ignore it assuming it'll eventually just work itself out d) tackle it head on without considering the ideal outcome or e) none of the above?

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What are you avoiding?

There are plenty of things in our lives that we avoid like people, commitment, fears, decisions, & even conversations.

There are some big drawbacks to the behavior of avoidance. It can be an obstacle that keeps us stuck and holds us back from reaching our full potential. We - consciously or unconsciously - waste a lot of time and energy.

Your Avoidance Inventory

  • 3 people
  • 3 decisions
  • 3 conversations

Pick the 3 things across this list that drain you the most. What's ONE action you could take in each area to address instead of avoid? What's the ideal outcome you would want?  You may find a sense of relief, just by writing things down and getting them out of your head. They will no longer occupy all of that space in your brain.

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