What To Do When You Feel Burned Out And Want To Quit

It was spring - during my 5th year as an assistant collegiate swim coach. I was at one of the top programs in the country and yet, I was done. I had already made a new plan. I was moving to Alaska. 

I would work at Starbucks or REI. I wanted to do something easy. Maybe I would pick up some substitute teaching hours along the way.

My friend had offered me a place to live for free while she traveled out of the country for the next six months.

All I wanted to do was sleep...and be by myself. What I realized later was that I was experiencing all the classic signs and symptoms of burnout. 

Have you ever experienced any symptoms of burnout?

  • Physical and emotional fatigue or exhaustion

  • Disconnect between job and responsibilities

  • Cynicism, isolation, or detachment

  • Feeling unimportant or ineffective

  • Lack of passion 

[Click here for a self test on burnout.]

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What to do when you feel burned out...and want to quit

It was spring - during my 5th year as an assistant collegiate swim coach. I was done. I had already made a new plan. I was moving to Alaska. 

I would work at Starbucks or REI. I wanted to do something easy. Maybe I would pick up some substitute teaching hours along the way.

My friend had offered me a place to live for free while she traveled out of the country for the next six months.

All I wanted to do was sleep...and be by myself. What I realized later was that I was experiencing all the classic signs and symptoms of burnout. 

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The Coaches Conundrum

Q: I'm a coach, a wife, and a mom with two kids. I'm tired, stressed, and overwhelmed. I'm starting to let things fall through the crack in all different areas. I see other coaches doing everything well. Why can't I balance it all?

This is - in my opinion - the coaches conundrum: the pressure coaches face to get it all done while maintaining balance and success both on and off the field.

Coach burnout is a serious concern and isn't going away anytime soon - as the demands of college athletics and expectations on coaches continue to increase. Fortunately, there are things coaches can do to both prevent burnout, and respond successfully when experiencing the symptoms of burnout.

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Coaching burnout?...I'd rather not talk about it

'Well rested' is not an adjective one can frequently use to describe collegiate coaches. I facilitate women's coaches summits where many arrive exhausted, overwhelmed, and ready for a break. 

In some coaching circles putting in long hours, getting little sleep, and taking few vacations is a badge of honor to wear proudly. I understand coaches are competitive. I get it. But, your lack of rest is not something that should earn you any bragging rights! No wonder coaches get stressed out, burnt out, and then drop out...of this profession.

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The Coaches Conundrum

The Coaches Conundrum:

Q: I'm a coach, a wife, and a mom with two kids. I'm tired, stressed, and overwhelmed. I'm starting to let things fall through the crack in all different areas. I see other coaches doing everything well. Why can't I balance it all?

This is - in my opinion - the coaches conundrum: the pressure coaches face to get it all done while maintaining balance and success both on and off the field.

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The Lone Wolf Syndrome

Three things stop people from reaching out for support: ego, shame, & fear.

1. The Ego. 

Your egos believe you should have all the answers - that you should have it all figured out. The ego takes pride in working long hours, no vacations, not needing a lot of sleep, and being a 1-person solution-machine. The ego wants you to do what you are good at...if you always do the things you do well, you won't run into problems. Right? Wrong.

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