I work with coaches to help you get a 360º view of what’s going on with yourself and with your team by looking back, looking at what’s going on now, and then looking ahead. Otherwise, it’s easy for you to be so driven and forward focused that you don’t stop long enough to learn from all of the experiences you’re having.
Coaching is all about experiential education - if you include the reflection piece.
Experience → Reflection → Conclusion → Experiment (Kolb Learning Cycle)
As a leader, there are specific leadership skills you can work on to improve how you’re leading your team. Reflect on how your athletes and staff are responding to your leadership style, and experiment by adapting your behavior for a more successful outcome. Read More
Do you ever wish you had a magic wand...that you could just waive over your athletes when they're complaining, whining, blaming, or being negative?
It's unrealistic to expect your athletes to be positive and chipper all of the time. (Let's get real...I'm not always positive and chipper myself. Especially before I've had my coffee).
Yet, some days when my team would come out onto the pool deck for practice...it was like a forcefield of negative energy. It was like the dementors out of Harry Potter. (I love Harry Potter...). Everything felt heavy, dramatic, and dark.
I wished I had a magic wand to simply shift their energy.
I wanted to help them realize how carrying this heavy negative energy seemed to drain their POTENTIAL.
If only they could be more open, more light, and allow things to flow. Read More
Tawnya's team was struggling.
Her team returned to campus after a long training camp. Classes had just started back.
It's always been an odd time for her team, yet this year felt especially strange. Her team felt disconnected.
Yet, when she talked to her team captains about it, they totally brushed it off and assured her everything was going 'just fine'.
"You're making things up...we're all good coach," said one of her senior athletes convincingly.
After practice, she pulled one of her freshmen aside to ask her how things were going and got a totally different story.
When "something's up" on your team...you know it.
You may not know the WHAT or the WHY…yet if you're intuitive, you definitely know the 'feeling' you get.
One of the hardest things to deal with as a coach is when you know something's wrong and your team denies it...until it's too late and everything blows up...at the most un-opportune time.
What can you do when you ‘feel’ that something’s up? Read More
Last week, I wrote about choosing a word-of-the-year. This week I want to get real with you.
Setting an intention should come with a WARNING.
It’s not what most people talk about.
All you hear about is the excitement of the New Year.
If you examine things a little closer, .the first thing you might notice are the things you DON'T want to come up.
Which may lead you to question your intention.
You may think things like...
"That didn’t work...again."
"Maybe there’s something wrong with me."
“I guess I chose the wrong word.”
It takes a little more trust and faith to see your intention through.
My coach uses the analogy of a gardener.
You've just planted a seed for the new year.
When you plant a seed, you don’t get flowers shooting up out of the right away.
Growth takes time.
The first thing that comes up when you plant a seed is all the dirt.
So, look out!
Pay attention to things unlike your word that come your way…especially during these first few months of the year. Read More
I've noticed a pattern that's come up with a few coaches I've talked to recently.
I'm curious if you can relate?
Read through these examples and choose the letter that best describes what you tend to do.
Note: Don't think too long. There are no right or wrong answers. Which one best describes your 'go-to' mode. (And...be honest.)
1. You see someone you’re having a hard time with…and you really don't want to talk to them. What do you do?
Do you a) avert your eyes, find something interesting on the floor, pick up the pace and walk briskly walk by...like you're in a hurry b) duck into the closest restroom...and hope they don't come in c) pull your phone out and pretend to answer an important call d) suck it up and begin the conversation...awkwardly or e) none of the above?
2. There's a big decision you need to make by tomorrow. What do you do?
Do you a) go workout, turn up the music and try not to think about it b) go home, tune into a new Netflix series and numb out with three more episodes c) stay at the office late, like you're "really busy"...frantically checking emails, facebook, instagram...or working on something that's not due until next spring d) lie down in bed and stay wide awake stressing out about it all night or e) none of the above?
3. There's a conversation you know you need to have to clear up some major tension. What do you do?
Do you a) vent about it with someone you can count on to agree with you to collude with b) rehearse lines in your head over and over again until you think it's perfect c) ignore it assuming it'll eventually just work itself out d) tackle it head on without considering the ideal outcome or e) none of the above? Read More
Kristin's team was a few weeks into the season. Things were going well so far and yet she sensed an undercurrent of tension after morning practice. She hadn't 'heard' anything negative...she just had a 'sense'.
Then she got a text from her team captain to confirm something was definitely up...thank GOD!
At least she had her guard up before Nell (one of her freshmen) walked into her office and promptly burst into tears.
All teams (and any group) cycle through the stages of group development:
During the forming stage, your athletes are looking for ways to belong and connect. As a coach, this is when you’ll want to build trust and set boundaries - so people feel safe.
Storming begins when people assert themselves and try to stand out. When it happens, this CAN be great. To become a high performing team and reach your true potential your team needs to storm. Tuckman's theory of team development seems simple enough to comprehend. It's not always so easy - in practice. Read More