Small Success is BIG

This week I’m working with group of coaches at a Women's Coaching Summit in Bellingham.

Part of what’s so great about the summit is taking the opportunity to celebrate all of the many accomplishments, insights, and ah-ha’s these coaches have had over the past year.

When coaches sit down to write these things down, their list may not look like what you'd expect. 

That's because it takes some work to recognize the value in your work as a coach.

Coaches are hard on their athletes...and even harder on themselves! 

It takes a little more digging and a deeper level of awareness to see all the ways you're actually learning, growing, and expanding.

SMALL SUCCESS

The things that matter the most aren't necessarily the typical things that you might expect people to high-five or fist-pump about.

Things that make your list of accomplishments may be things you'd hardly ever think to celebrate at all.

That's why this kind of work is so important!!!

Read More

3 Things You're Avoiding...and How It Drains Your Energy

I've noticed a pattern that's come up with a few coaches I've talked to recently.

I'm curious if you can relate?

Read through these examples and choose the letter that best describes what you tend to do.

Note: Don't think too long. There are no right or wrong answers. Which one best describes your 'go-to' mode. (And...be honest.)

1. You see someone you’re having a hard time with…and you really don't want to talk to them. What do you do?

Do you a) avert your eyes, find something interesting on the floor, pick up the pace and walk briskly walk by...like you're in a hurry b) duck into the closest restroom...and hope they don't come in c) pull your phone out and pretend to answer an important call d) suck it up and begin the conversation...awkwardly or e) none of the above? 

2. There's a big decision you need to make by tomorrow. What do you do? 

Do you a) go workout, turn up the music and try not to think about it b) go home, tune into a new Netflix series and numb out with three more episodes c) stay at the office late, like you're "really busy"...frantically checking emails, facebook, instagram...or working on something that's not due until next spring d) lie down in bed and stay wide awake stressing out about it all night or e) none of the above?

3. There's a conversation you know you need to have to clear up some major tension. What do you do?

Do you a) vent about it with someone you can count on to agree with you to collude with b) rehearse lines in your head over and over again until you think it's perfect c) ignore it assuming it'll eventually just work itself out d) tackle it head on without considering the ideal outcome or e) none of the above?

Read More

The Big Truth About Small Success

Last week I got to work with a group of coaches at a Women's Coaching Summit in Bellingham.

The first night, we had a High-Five Happy Hour to celebrate all of their many accomplishments from the past year.

When coaches sat down to write these things down earlier that day, their list may not look like what you'd expect. 

That's because it takes some work to recognize what you're actually doing in your work as a coach. Coaches are hard on their athletes...and even harder on themselves! It takes a little more digging and a deeper awareness to see all the ways you're actually expanding.

SMALL SUCCESS

The things that matter the most aren't the typical things that coaches high-five or fist-pump about.

Things that make your list of accomplishments may be things you'd hardly ever think to celebrate at all.

That's why I think this kind of work is so important!!!

Real success isn’t as much about the big things that show up in a press release for everyone else to read.

Your success as a coach is about hundreds of moments when you just want to say, “Forget it...” and instead, you give it one more shot.

Read More

3 things you're avoiding that's draining your energy

I've noticed a pattern that's come up recently with a few of the coaches I work with. I'm curious if you can relate?

Read through each hypothetical situation below and consider what you would do.

Note: Don't think too long. There are no right or wrong answers. Choose the letter that best describes your 'go-to' mode. (And...be honest.)

1. You're walking down the hall and see someone...at the other end of the hall...who you really don't want to talk to. What do you do?

Do you a) avert your eyes, find something interesting on the floor, pick up the pace and walk briskly walk by...like you're in a hurry b) duck into the closest restroom...and hope they don't come in c) pull your phone out and pretend to answer an important call d) suck it up and begin the conversation...awkwardly or e) none of the above? 

2. There's a big decision you need to make by tomorrow. What do you do? 

Do you a) go workout, turn up the music and try not to think about it b) go home, tune into a new Netflix series and numb out with three more episodes c) stay at the office late, like you're "really

Read More

6 signs you're trying too hard (& how to stop )

As coaches, we're hardwired to work hard. When we don't reach a goal or if something doesn't work out the way we thought it would, we're conditioned to try harder. Put the nose to the grindstone. Eventually we'll have a breakthrough. Right?

Trying harder isn't always the solution. Sometimes its smarter to take a step back, get more information, and look for another way.

It doesn't always have to be so hard. We don't always have to struggle. 

Let me share a quick story with you. It's a 

Read More

3 actions that help coaches make better decisions

Top leaders know they need a place to learn new things, get the support they need and have the ability to look at situations from a different perspective - to ensure they are making the best decisions for their organization.

The best leaders have learned the importance of lining up support. It's too hard to go it alone! Leaders make decisions that impact entire organizations from the bottom to the top: impacting the people who work for them to their families and kids at home. Some decisions can be really hard to make!

The same is true for coaches. Coaches need a space where they can share their unique experiences - honestly - knowing that what they say will be held in confidence.

Read More