I encourage the coaches I work with to schedule their vacations and downtime FIRST...and schedule the rest of the season around that.
It’s one of the hardest conversations that we have!
I get a lot of push back, resistance, and excuses.
Here are some typical responses (I'm wondering if you can relate?):
THE NON-COMMITTAL COACH: "I can't commit to a vacation. There are way too many things that might come up."
THE 'IF THEN' COACH: "If we do well enough this season, then I'll see if I can take some time off."
THE PROCRASTINATOR: "I promise I'll schedule my vacation…'later'."
RESISTANCE TO VACATION IS PART OF OUR CULTURE
If you have a hard time taking vacation, you're not alone.
In fact, the majority of Americans don't even use their hard-earned vacation time.
Did you know that in 2015, 55 percent of Americans combined to leave 658 million vacation days unused. (GfK KnowledgePanel®)?
‘Work martyr’ an actual term. It’s a belief that vacations are difficult to take because:
No one else can do the work while I'm away
I want to show complete dedication to my job
I don't want others to think I'm replaceable
I feel guilty for using my time off
It's time to change this culture! Read More
I encourage the coaches I work with to schedule their vacations and downtime FIRST...then schedule the rest of the season around that.
Here are some typical responses. (I'm wondering if you can relate?)
THE NON-COMMITTAL COACH
- "Are you joking?"
- "I can't commit to that. There are way too many things that might come up."
- "You're kidding, right?!"
THE 'IF THEN' COACH
- "If we do well enough this season, then I'll see if I can take some time off."
- "If we sign three recruits this fall, I'll schedule something in the spring."
- "If I can keep my assistant coach here for another season, I'll make sure to get that in."
- "I can't do it right now. I don't have any bandwidth to think about that right now."
- "I promise I'll schedule my vacation 'later'."
- "I'll find time for some rest...as long as nothing else important comes up."
IT'S PART OF OUR CULTURE
If you have a hard time taking vacation, you're not alone. The majority of Americans don't use their hard-earned vacation time. In 2015, 55 percent of Americans combined to leave 658 million vacation days unused. (GfK KnowledgePanel®) Read More
Tammy is a coach I've been working with over the past four years - starting the season after she was fired from her job as a head coach.
The circumstances were complex. There were major issues that her athletic director was dealing with - title IX compliance, pressure from the president to significantly reduce spending, legal battles within the department, NCAA compliance issues...things were a mess. The culmination of the entangled web of problems boiled down to her team being cut the following season. Thus, she was out of a job.
She wasn't sure what she would do at first. Leave coaching? She wondered 'who would ever hire me again...after having the stigma of being fired?' Sure, it wasn't her fault...it wasn't performance based...at all. And still...she worried, 'how can I possibly explain my unique circumstances every time I call about a position or even put in an application?'
Tammy felt incredibly alone.
Coaches aren't bulletproof. You need meaningful connections and support you can count on - just like any other human! Read More
Now, more than ever, the work you do as a coach is important. You help your athletes develop character and live by values that are constantly being tested by society right now. Staying aligned with those values can be a struggle.
How do we step up and lead after coming face to face with trauma, change, or disappointment?How do we show up as strong leaders in the face of turbulent times?
Allow yourself time to process difficult emotions:
- Feel what you need to feel
- Allow your emotions to happen
- Don't ignore or shove them down