“I can’t do this!”
“This is too much pressure.”
“The harder I try, the worse things get.”
“This always happens.”
Does this sound familiar?
Have you thought any of these same thoughts? Or heard similar comments from your athletes?
Old School Way
The ‘old school’ way of dealing with this is to tell someone to change their thoughts.
“Just have a positive attitude!”
The problem with this is it’s more of a bully approach…trying to make something that’s there go away.
For most people - if you’re in the midst of actual fear or anxiety…it does not work.
Shoving it down and not acknowledging negativity can make it worse.
It’s not as simple as ‘changing your thoughts’ or just trying to ‘think better thoughts’.
Thoughts are hard to stop.
Thoughts keep coming.
Thoughts argue with thoughts.
So, this goes deeper than thoughts.
Notice what happens in your body when you think the thought or notice the pattern.
The stories you recite in your head…how do they make you feel?
Maybe you feel it in your belly…or your chest…or there’s a heaviness in your shoulders and neck.
What you’re noticing is energy.
Lots of times, we want to justify it, coddle it, fix it, or make it go away.
You aren’t broken or defective.
You’re observing a pattern.
You can’t ‘think’ your way out of fear or anxiety.
You have to work with the energy.Read More