There were several activities that took me out of my comfort zone in my role as a head coach: networking, recruiting, and speaking. You may find it hard to believe that a head coach of a Pac-12 program could be such an introvert. The two don't seem to fit together. Yet...there I was.
To say I had a bad-attitude at times was an understatement.
I made up stories about what people thought of me. I would compare myself to other coaches. I had a stream of negative thoughts swirling around in my head. Read More
Walking into coaching conventions used to be a really scary and miserable experience for me. You may find it hard to believe that a head coach of a Pac-12 program can be such an introvert. The two don't seem to fit together. Yet...there I was.
To say I had a bad-attitude was an understatement.
What made the real difference?
I looked around...comparing myself to everyone else (or at least what I thought I knew about them). I never felt good enough to speak up. I would dwell on the fact that my team hadn't done well last season. I would make up stories like - no one wants to hear what I have to say.
I commiserated with other coaches who felt obligated to be there because that seemed easier than actually facing the fact that I was the one who was uncomfortable.
I really just wanted to hide or go home.
I finally realized it was my attitude, my cynicism, and my overall mindset that was making me miserable. This event was an opportunity I wasn't fully tapping into because I wasn't open to seeing the all possibilities and potential that were there. Read More