How to thwart big problems...through better communication

Do you have any "doomsday" athletes on your team...everything that comes out of their mouths is dramatic?

"It's not my fault...I would've done it if it weren't for her...nothing ever goes right for me."

Ugggghhh! The blamer mentality used to drive me freaking crazy as a coach. It was definitely a trigger. So...what did I do?

When one of my athletes did something that really pissed me off...instead of getting angry...I knew it was time to teach.

Do you have any "doomsday" athletes on your team...everything that comes out of their mouths is dramatic?

"It's not my fault...I would've done it if it weren't for her...nothing ever goes right for me."

When athletes struggle, many of them blame, complain, and criticize others....instead of accepting responsibility for their own outcomes and results. It's easier to play the victim and point a finger.

The thing is...this mentality doesn't just appear overnight. Your athletes have been using this kind of language for a long time. (They may even hear you use it too.)

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The significance of 3 C's for coaches and athletes: certainty, choice, and control

I was biology major in college. I like to 'geek out' a bit and dive into some of the science behind our human behaviors.  It turns out...our brains are wired for certainty, choices, and control.

Certainty

The brain likes certainty. Whether we're playing solitaire, Sudoku or completing a crossword puzzle. How great does it feel when you 'win'? Your brain gets an instant reward. YES - that's the answer!

When you can't predict the outcome of a situation your brain feels out of control.

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