Three Stories That Hold Coaches Back

written by Erica Quam

We all have stories we tell ourselves. Some stories originated to protect us and helped us grow into the people we are today. Some stories originated to protect us and helped us grow into the people we are today.  There comes a time when these same stories no longer serve us. They hold us back and keep us stuck!

Here are 3 stories I see coaches struggle with all the time.

1st Story -- I CAN DO IT ALL BY MYSELF

How it shows up...

You hand a project off to someone on your staff. It doesn’t get done right.

Instead of taking the time to get really clear on your specific expectations of what it looks like when it’s done and done well...you go ahead and just do it yourself.

As a coach, you are capable of a lot. You are good at juggling a lot of things - all at once. Does the fact that you CAN do it mean you SHOULD do it? Of course not!

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What's your knee jerk reaction?

We all have "this place" that our mind goes first when obstacles or challenges come up in our lives. The "place" is based on our own personal beliefs and our past experiences in life. 

A powerful exercise is to observe your immediate reaction to the things that happen in your life. Where does your mind go first? What's the story you tell yourself?

Let's say that you've been rear-ended in a car accident. What's your immediate reaction? Do you a) get angry - shouting obscenities and shaking your fists in the air? b) first worry about the people in the other car, wondering if they are okay? c) Are you immediately fearful that you did something wrong? or d) Do you keep things bottled up - showing absolutely no reaction at all...so the people in the car with you have NO idea what you are thinking?

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