What do you need to do what you want?

Believe it or not, you are in charge of your feelings and emotions. These emotions move you closer to or further away from the outcomes you want and the goals you set in life. 

There are two sides to each emotion. Think of it like a coin - for example, on one side there is joy and appreciation and on the other side boredom.

List A moves you further away from what you want. List B list takes you closer to what you want. What do you need to spend more time in the second list?

Take ownership of your emotions:

  • He just makes me feel worthless.
  • She makes me so angry!
  • That coach always makes me feel discouraged!

No one makes you feel anything. You just feel. You experience your own emotions.

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Do you get hit by the second arrow?

There is a buddhist story about the two arrows that fly with each misfortune. The first arrow is the actual event that may cause pain. The second arrow is our reaction TO the event. 

Interestingly enough, it's the second arrow that causes more pain than the first.

The second arrow is our choice. We choose our reaction and thus are in fact in charge of how much pain the second arrow will cause. So, ultimately we choose how much we suffer.

It goes back to that old phrase that I always heard from teachers, parents, & coaches growing up..."pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."

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Do you fight your emotions?

Do your emotions get the best of you?

Your emotions will move you closer to or further away from the things that you want in life. Believe it or not, you are in charge of your feelings and emotions.

Common complaints:

  • He just makes me feel worthless.
  • She makes me get so angry!
  • That coach always makes me feel discouraged.

In reality, no one makes you feel anything. You just feel. You experience your own emotions.

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A daily experience of wonder?

Yesterday I was walking out to take the recycling out to the alley. On my way, I stopped to duck underneath a spider web that was extended from the branch of a tree over to one of the chairs in our back yard. The truth is...I do NOT like spiders. AT all. I don't even like to see pictures of them in my guide books!  I'm not sure how I developed this arachnophobia...but, I generally let Kerry "take care of them" around the house or out at the cabin when they wander inside.

Despite of my fear of spiders and what I might see - I took a closer look into the tree. When I did I saw a few other webs had been spun in the branches. When I took an even closer look, I saw that there were actually too many webs for me to count!

Okay, so I'll admit, the voice in the back of my head asked..."if there are that many webs, how many spiders are up actually up there"?

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