Top Ten Most Read Articles from 2016

Top 10 most read Who Coaches You eZine articles in 2016

1 -    10 books to add to your summer reading list
2 -    7 ways to coach your team to better leaders
3 -    How well do you coach accountability?
4 -    7 Ideas for your next team retreat
5 -    6 signs you're trying too hard (& how to stop)
6 -    Got drama?
7 -    5 mistakes coaches make (instead of handling issues)
8 -    A simple framework for teambuilding
9 -    Leadership is hard!
10 -  The coaches conundrum

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The moment is NOW!

Tomorrow. Next week. Next time. When will I ever get there? One day. Sometime. I should do that. In 5 years... That's on my bucket list. I am going to do that someday!

Too often we live in the past or in the future. We are obsessed with tomorrow!

Now, I'm a planner. I LOVE to plan. I love to plan trips, plan retreats, plan adventures...it's usually good to have some sort of plan. AND the secret to living a juicy life, is...

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Celebrate YOU!

written by Erica Quam

So, almost 40 years ago I was born.  That's right.  This is a big one for me.  I'm not one to like a lot of pomp and circumstance or big celebrations for myself.  Ever!  I'd much rather play things low key, have a nice quiet dinner with Kerry, and a toast with a nice bottle of wine.  

This year is no different.  Except...it is a milestone.  40 years old.  Wow.  I had a good friend turn 45 this week.  I wished her happy birthday and she replied with her intention for her 45th year.  It is, "45 and SO alive"!  

Well, I'm a sucker for setting a good intention.  Whether it's for the day, the week, the month or the year.  I'm all about it.  So, that got me thinking.  What's my intention going to be for this year?

I've decided that this will be a year of celebration.  I'd like to get in the habit of acknowledging the things that are going well in my life.  I'd like to celebrate each day with an attitude of gratitude.  I'm even going to stretch myself and celebrate my mistakes and my failures.  Does that sound crazy?  Well, what I know is that my mistakes and failures help steer me in the right direction.  I learn so much more from challenges than I do when everything is going well.

So, join me in this year of celebration.  It doesn't matter how old or young you are.  Everyone can use a boost of confidence and more momentum in their lives.  How do you build confidence and momentum?  Celebrate today!

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You make a difference...and may never know it

written by Erica Quam

I received a homemade card yesterday from a yoga student who had come to one of my classes in December.  At the beginning of class I shared my ritual of choosing a word of the year - instead of setting new year's resolutions.

I remember seeing something click for her - like a lightbulb went off.  After class, as tears welled up in her eyes, she shared with me that she had chosen her word.  It was 'play'.  She revealed that she had never really allowed herself to play as a child.

My card yesterday was hand painted in beautiful reds and orange colors.  Inside she shared how she had been living her word - and finding new opportunities to play.  She was taking weekly dance classes, and had enrolled in art classes - only to realize she had never even held a paint-brush in her hand. 

She wrote in my card,
"You don't stop playing because you are old.  You get old because you stop playing."

She wanted to let me know that what I had shared had changed her life.  

While it's rare to get cards like these, it was a reminder to me of how the things you say can have a powerful impact on others.  And you may never even know.  

Keep reminding yourself each day of the good you do and the difference you make in people's lives.

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5 Steps to Building an Unshakable Team

by Erica Quam

1.  Begin with trust

People have to trust each other first.  Not just trust that they know what another person will do or how they will react in a certain situation.  There has to be an element of vulnerability.  People have to get comfortable with telling their teammates, "I screwed up." "I'm not going to be able to do that." "I actually need some help." This kind of trust is authentic, open, and honest.

How do you get there?  
Partner up to get people talking and learning things about one another.  Examples:

  • What is something people may not know about you that is important to know?
  • Share 3 things about your family: brothers, sisters, mom, dad, grandparents.

Important: Have one person talk, the other person ONLY listens.  Then switch roles.  Many times people don't really listen because they are trying to think of how they can add to the conversation.  

2.  Engage in conflict

How do you get there?
Talk about the continuum of conflict.  On one side there is total agreement on the opposite side is complete destructive conflict.  Have discussions where people move closer to the very center - sharing ideas and opinions without crossing over that line to destructive conflict.

Important: Set some ground rules.  Make sure all sides are heard.  Make the conflict about an idea instead of a person.  Allow for a time-out to be called: when and if things cross over the line.  It may get uncomfortable.  It should!

3.  Make a commitment

The commitment is the buy-in.  People need to be willing to give up some of their individual goals for the good of the team.  Once they have engaged in conflict, and everyone has shared their opinions, then they are usually be more willing to be on board with things and ready to make a commitment.  If there hasn't been any conflict and people aren't being real or trusting one another then it's really hard to make a commitment.

How do you get there?  
You sometimes have to work backwards: Find out about the underlying conflicts that people are avoiding.  Find out why people don't trust enough to engage in this conflict.

4.  Hold each other accountable

Once a commitment has been made, then the next step is holding people accountable.  This step can be the most challenging - usually because teams haven't built enough trust, have avoided conflict, and haven't really made a commitment.  If people have become cynical and just said yes - when they really aren't - they won't hold each other accountable.  Why should they?

How do you get there?
Define accountability.  Give them the language to hold each other accountable.  Divide up into groups and give scenarios (or have them come up with their own).  Ask how they would specifically hold each other accountable in those different situations.  Make it real. 
Important: Point out that people may have different ways of holding each other accountable - depending on their style.

5.  Get results

If teams have engaged in the first four steps then the results will come.  Some teams can skip steps and get results; however, the results are usually short term and not long-lasting.  For a team to remain strong throughout the ups and downs of the season and still get great results at the end, they need to build a foundation.

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